The Pleasures and Sorrows of Work Book Notes

As a general rule, I like reading books by Alain du Botton.  He explains in plain English some very messy or confusing aspects of life and human behavior.  For example, what is the cycle of romantic love, and what is the nature of long term relationships?  Why do people seek status and what should they aspire to do instead?  Unfortunately, this book is not one of his better works.  In fact, I would recommend passing on this book, The Pleasures and Sorrows of Work [public library].

This book is a collection of essays on various types of work in different industries and their relationships with society and individuals.  For example, the miracle of logistics that allows us to eat fruit year-round, how people derive meaning from work, how it’s sad that modern society shames people for not finding their calling, etc.  Sometimes there are interesting tidbits hidden in these essays, but for the most part Botton’s writing is too wordy and descriptive in a way that is not engaging.  The lack of a story or narrative makes it very easy to get bored, and I ended up skimming through most of the book.  The deeper gems (e.g. how do people derive meaning from their work?  How should they?) are glossed over rather than explored in full glorious detail.  As a result one ends up with a book that was better off as mere articles in some magazine that does not require much brainpower to read.

 

Book notes:

‘An endeavour endowed with meaning may appear meaningful only when it proceeds briskly in the hands of a restricted number of actors and therefore where particular workers can make an imaginative connection between what they have done with their working days and their impact upon others.’

People are happier/find their jobs more meaningful when their work is linked to some “visible betterment of human life.”

“…the most remarkable feature of the modern working world may in the end be internal, consisting in an aspect of our mentalities: in the widely held belief that our work should make us happy. All societies have had work at their centre; ours is the first to suggest that it could be something much more than a punishment or a penance. Ours is the first to imply that we should seek to work even in the absence of a financial imperative.” Work defines your identity

From Aristotle to 2000 years after, financial needs=for slaves and animals. “Only a private income and a life of leisure could afford citizens adequate opportunity to enjoy the higher pleasures gifted by music and philosophy.”

The Renaissance turned this idea on its head. Work was noble and gave happiness. Laziness and art is for slackers. Interestingly, around the same time romantic love became a thing–you could have sexual passion and raise a family with the same person.

“It isn’t normal to know what we want. It is a rare and difficult psychological achievement.”–Abraham Maslow, Motivation and Personality

“[a career counselor] knew that it was hopeless to try to guide people towards more fulfilling vocations simply by discussing with them directly what they might like to do. Concerns about money and status would long ago have extinguished most clients’ ability to think authentically about their options.”

Envy is also a useful emotion to know what you really desire. Who do you envy and what do you envy about them?

The norm is not to find your passion and true calling and true love and live happily ever after. The exception is not the rule. But when society represents it as such, it makes everyone have unrealistic expectations and feel bad about themselves. “…the bourgeois ideology denies us the possibility of collective consolation for our fractious marriages and our unexploited ambitions, and condemns us instead to solitary feelings of shame and persecution for having stubbornly failed to become who we are.”

Usually our work and efforts don’t result in enduring visible physical effects. “We are diluted in gigantic intangible collective projects, which leave us wondering what we did last year and, more profoundly, where we have gone and quite what we have amounted to. …How different everything is for the craftsman who transforms a part of the world with his own hands, who can see his work as emanating from his being and can step back at the end of a day or lifetime and point to an object…and see it as a stable repository of his skills and an accurate record of his years, and hence feel collected together in one place, rather than strung out across projects which long ago evaporated into nothing one could hold or see.”

“Entrepreneurship appears to be almost wholly dependent on a sense that the present order is an unreliable and cowardly indicator of the possible. The absence of certain practices and products is deemed by entrepreneurs to be neither right nor inevitable, but merely evidence of the conformity and lack of imagination of the herd.”
“The field seems to require a painfully uncommon synthesis of imagination and realism.” It’s disturbing how many ppl have been encouraged to give it a go, since that combination is super super rare.
“Our era is perverse in passing off an exception as a rule.”

“Work does not by its nature permit us to do anything other than take it too seriously. It must destroy our sense of perspective…” We are incentivized to focus on work, put too much importance on work, and thus forget the things that are larger and more important. Sometimes this is a good thing, since work is a distraction from death and our own mortality.
“What is interesting is that we may take it upon ourselves to approach tasks with utter determination and gravity even when their wider non-sense is clear. The impulse to exaggerate the significance of what we are doing…is really life itself coursing through us.” (As a distraction from death)[–but it also distracts from larger questions!]

 

The Shepherd’s Life Book Notes

Ryan Holiday has an excellent reading list that consistently provides leads for promising biographical/historical/philosophical books.  Recently he recommended an obscure book on shepherding and what it is like to be a modern day shepherd, called The Shepherd’s Life [public library].

But the book is not just about farming and raising sheep in the Lake District, England.  It is about the mindset of indigenous people who have a spiritual tie to the land, the contrast between “peasants” who have a sense of belonging and purpose and history, and the “civilized” modern world that works as cogs in a machine and increasingly cut away their roots to everything (tradition, family, legacy, religion, community).  It is the memoir of a man who was born the heir in a long line of sheep farmers, who only wanted to be a sheep farmer, but somehow ended up with an Oxford education and a career in London, before he was able to finally return to his roots and what he was meant to be and do.  You will learn about sheep and the economics of shepherding, about the mindset of a people like the people of the chalk in Terry Pratchett’s Tiffany Aching series [public library], the spirituality of working closely with nature, morality and values in close-knit communities, and about cultural integration and misunderstandings.  This book is a longer read, but well worth the effort.

 

Book notes:

As a child, he experienced a lot of friction between teachers in school and the local kids–teachers (outsiders) could only see success as getting educated and going out into the world and achieving white collar success, but the kids only wanted to do what generations of their families had done working on the land and doing blue collar local jobs.  Complete disconnect between world views.  [Perhaps it would have been better if the educators could have tailored their curriculum to help the kids learn how to better work on their farms, like a vocational school, or at least to show them how learning math/how to read can make you a better farmer/businessman.]

“The idea that we, our fathers, and mothers might be proud, hardworking, and intelligent people doing something worthwhile or even admirable was beyond her [the teacher].  For a woman who saw success as being demonstrated through education, ambition, adventure, and conspicuous professional achievement we must have seemed a poor sample. …Schooling was a way out, but we didn’t want it, and we’d made our choice.”

“Later I would understand that modern people the world over are obsessed with the importance of ‘going somewhere’ and ‘doing something’ with your life.  The implication is an idea I have come to hate, that staying local and doing physical work doesn’t count for much.”

 

“‘The village children…are convinced that they have something which none of the newcomers can ever have, some kind of mysterious life which is so perfect that it is a waste of time to search for anything else.’” –Daphne Ellington, Teacher, Quoted in Ronald Blythe’s Akenfield: Portrait of an English Village (1969)

 

Childhood hero was his grandpa:

“Even as a small child I could see that he was the king of his own world, like a biblical patriarch.  He doffed his cap to no man.  No one told him what to do.  He lived a modest life but was proud and free and independent, with a presence that said he belonged in this place in the world.  My first memories are of him, and knowing I wanted to be just like him someday.”

[This kind of self-assurance, confidence from being your own boss and being self-sufficient is rare in the modern industrialized world.  More often modern men are just cogs in the machine, usually feeling low confidence from being subject to the orders/whims of arbitrary bosses or stakeholders–too many dependencies and low feelings of control.  And most often they are little fish in a big pond, rather than big fish in a little pond.  And then all the options people have for living makes them more likely to second guess choices, which causes more insecurity.]

To outsiders, Lake District is an idealized place of inspiration for the arts, a place to escape and feel things, a foil for the industrial revolution.

[Note: the author’s description of his ppl and their mentality reminds me a lot of the culture of the shepherds on the chalk plains in Terry Pratchett’s Tiffany Aching series.  I wonder if he read this book or had met/spoken with these people when writing that series?]

“I smile at the thought that the entire history of our family has played out in the fields and villages stretching away beneath that fell, between Lake District and Pennines, for at least six centuries, and probably longer.  We shaped this landscape, and we were shaped by it in turn.  My people lived, worked, and died down there for countless generations.  It is what it is because of them and people like them.

It is, above all, a peopled landscape.  Every acre of it has been defined by the actions of men and women over the past ten thousand years.  …Almost everyone I am related to and care about lives within sight of that fell.  When we call it our landscape, we mean it as a physical and intellectual reality.  There is nothing chosen about it.  This landscape is our home and we rarely stray long from it, or endure anywhere else for long before returning.  This may seem like a lack of imagination or adventure, but I don’t care.  I love this place; for me it is the beginning and the end of everything, and everywhere else feels like nowhere.

[What must it be like to feel SUCH a sense of connection and rightness to a place?  To know in your bones that this is your destiny, where you belong?]

 

“There is something about this landscape that people love.  It would, in summer, seem to most people around the world to be exceptionally green and lush.  It is a pastoral landscape and temperate, a place of heavy rainfall and warm summers, an excellent place, in short, for growing grass in the summer.  As writers have long noted, it is an intimate landscape, big enough to fill the eyes, but small enough to feel intimate and knowable.  Whitewashed farmhouses hug the fell sides just beneath the ancient common land of the fells.”

 

“My grandfather was, quite simply, one of the great forgotten silent majority of people who live, work, love, and die without leaving much written trace that they were ever here.  He was, and his descendants remain, essentially nobodies as far as anyone else is concerned.  But that’s the point.  Landscapes like ours were created by and survive through the efforts of nobodies.  …This is a landscape of modest hardworking people.  The real history of our landscape should be the history of the nobodies.”

 

Sheep raising is done on the commons–shared land on the mountainside called the “fells”.  Sheep are tied to a particular location so don’t wander even without fences.

“Beyond our common lies other unfenced areas of mountain land, other fells, farmed by other commoners, so in theory our sheep could wander right across the Lake District.  But they don’t because they know their place on the mountains.  They are ‘hefted’, taught their sense of belonging by their mothers as lambs–an unbroken chain of learning that goes back thousands of years. …This is, they say, the greatest concentration of common land in Western Europe; and it survives on an older kind of farming that that which exists across much of the world now.”

[Sheep hefting is like how the ppl there are hefted to the land–they also stay.]

 

The land is owned by the National Trust or private landowners who allow the commoners (people who live on the commons) grazing rights.  There are things called “stints”, which are shares of the common rights to grazing, and each stint you own lets you graze a certain # of sheep.  These stints can be bought/sold/rented.

“This is all a strange hangover from a feudal past when we paid dues (including bearing arms) to the lord of the manor in return for the right to graze the poor mountain land. …The aristocrats either disappeared or couldn’t be bothered to contest our rights, because we are troublesome and stubborn when crossed.  It was more effort than it was worth, so we, the peasants, won.”

 

For the most part, the sheep are left to graze and do their thing (no natural predators in the area).  They are gathered and brought down to the lowlands a few times a year to do shearing, lambing, etc.  Gathering is a team affair and all the shepherds in the same commons work together to gather all their sheep down.  Good sheepdogs are a requirement for being a shepherd.

 

“Ghylls” are long deep ravines, “carved out by the beck over many centuries, on the left-hand arm of the gather where our common meets the next one.”

“Peat hags”: “raised peat bogs that rise up out of the sward, like green, or brown, islands slowly emerging out of the earth.  They form a sea of raised mounds, some twenty or thirty feet across, others acres in size; they are carved apart by little gulleys and valleys worn by the water, forming dangerous cliffs of black peat the height of a man, or deeper, that you can tumble into.  The sheep rub their backs on these peaty cliff faces, giving their fleeces a coal-black hue that tells us this is where they live.”

 

“I see my world stretched beneath me, the three kinds of farmland that make up our world: inbye (meadow), intake (the lower slopes of the fells which aren’t common land because they have been enclosed by walls or fences), and fells.  The farming year here revolves around the managed movement of the sheep between these three kinds of land.”

[This reminds me of that organic farm Michael Pollan wrote about where the farmer said he grew grass and then merely rotated animals around his farm to eat/excrete good fertilizer for the grass.]

“A fell farm is at heart a simple thing.  It is a way of farming that evolved to take advantage of the summer growth of grass in the mountains to produce things that farmers can consume themselves, in a subsistence model, or sell to earn their keep.”

Basic structure of the year:

“Midsummer we keep the lambs healthy, gather the ewes and lambs down from the fells or intakes for clipping the sheep (we do this even though the wool is largely worthless now, because it is needed for their welfare), and make the hay for the winter.

Autumn sees us bring the sheep down from the fells or higher ground again for the autumn sales and shows, taking the lambs from their mothers (who can then recover from their efforts), and preparing and selling the surplus ewe lambs and ewes in the harvest of the fells.  In these few short weeks we make most of our annual income, from selling surplus breeding females to the lowlands, and a handful of breeding males (tups) that are good enough to be sold to other breeders at a premium.

Late autumn is about starting the breeding cycle by putting the tups with the ewes…It is also when the retained lambs (those required for the future of the flock) are sent away for the winter to lowland farms.  Through late autumn (and winter) we also fatten and sell our spare male (wether) lambs to butchers for meat.  Our farming is largely about producing breeding sheep for sale to other farmers (who value the daughters of the fell flocks because they are tough and productive on lower ground), and male lambs for meat from the abundance of grass in the mountains between May and October (there is an intermediate trade in these lambs called selling them ‘store’ which has a middleman buy them and fatten them). …

Winter is about looking after the core breeding flock through the worst weather of the year, feeding them when needed (our sheep eat grass for much of the year until it disappears in the winter months, when we need to feed them the hay).

Late winter/early spring we tend the pregnant ewes and prepare for lambing time.

Spring revolves around lambing the ewes on the best land we have (the inbye) and looking after hundreds of young lambs.

Late spring/early summer we are marking, vaccinating, and worming the ewes and lambs and pushing them to the fells and intakes to take advantage of the summer growth of grass, freeing the valley bottoms to grow the hay for winter.

And then we do it all again, just as our forefathers did before us.  It is a farming pattern, fundamentally unchanged from many centuries ago.  It has changed in scale (as farms have amalgamated to survive, so there are fewer of us) but not in its basic content. …Things are driven by the seasons and necessity, not by our will.”

 

Local types of knowledge and solidity/predictability of life there:

“My grandfather and father could go just about anywhere in northern England and they’d usually know who farmed the land they had passed by and often who was there previously or who farmed next door.  The whole landscape here is a complex web of relationships between farms, flocks, and families.”

“Individuals live and die, but the farms, the flocks, and the old families go on.”

 

Rumors and reputation are the de facto rule of law.  People won’t do business with untrustworthy characters.

“THere is an unwritten code of honour between shepherds here.  I remember my grandfather telling me about his friend buying some sheep privately from another farmer for what he thought was a fair price.  Weeks later he attended some sheep sales and realized that he had got the sheep very cheap indeed, too cheap… He felt that this was unfair to the seller because he’d trusted him.  He didn’t want to be greedy, or perhaps as important, to be seen to be greedy.  So he sent the farmer a cheque for the difference and apologized.  But the farmer who’d sold them then politely refused to cash it, on the grounds that the original deal was an honourable one.  They’d shaken hands on it.  Stalemate.

The only way out was to go back the next year and buy his sheep and pay over the odds to make up for it, so he did.  Neither of these men cared remotely about ‘maximizing profit’ in the short-term in the way a modern business person in a city would; they both valued their good names and their reputations for integrity far more highly than making a quick buck.  If you said you would do a thing, you’d better do it.”

People are known by the reputations of their families, and their farms.

“Anyone new to the community or common would be watched carefully until they showed themselves to have integrity and play by the rules.  They say you have to be here for three generations before you are a local (people laugh when they say that, but it carries a lot of truth).”

 

People rarely praise, and when they do it’s high praise indeed.  After a sheepdog had done well, “He made me look good.  She [an old shepherdess] said he had done all right, which from her is the highest praise.”

 

Tough work builds character:
“But tough work knocks the silliness out of you when you grow up in places like ours.  It teaches you to get tougher or get lost.  Them that are all talk are soon found out.  Left sitting feeling sorry for themselves exhausted by mid-afternoon whilst the older men are grafting away like they have only just started.”

 

Another way of talking about the sense of history/belonging/roots:

“The past and the present live alongside each other in our working lives, overlapping and intertwining, until it is sometimes hard to know where one ends and the other starts.  Each annual task is also a memory of the many times we have done it before and the people we did it with.  As long as the work goes on, the men and women that once did it with us live on as well, part of what we are doing, part of our stories and memories, part of how and why we do those things.”

“Some people’s lives are entirely their own creation.

Mine isn’t.”

 

“I sometimes think we are so independently minded because we had seen just enough of the wider world to know we liked our own old ways and independence best.  My grandfather went as far afield as Paris for a trip to an agricultural fair once.  He knew what cities had to offer, but also had a sense that they would leave you uprooted, anonymous, and pushed about by the world you lived in, rather than having some freedom and control.  The potential wealth on offer counted for little or nothing set against the sense of belonging and purpose that existed at home.”

 

Wool used to be an economic factor in raising sheep, but now the costs no longer justify shearing and selling (b/c manmade fabrics are cheaper).  So sometimes shepherds just burn the wool(!!) and have bred sheep to have less wool b/c now the clipping only happens for the health of the sheep.

 

On values:

“He [grandfather] loves to tell stories.  True stories.  This is how he passes on his values.  How he tells me who we are.  They have morals, these stories.

We don’t give up, even when things are bad.

We pay our debts.

We work hard.

We act decently.

We help our neighbours if they need it.

We do what we say we will do.

We don’t want much attention.

We look after our own.

We are proud of what we do.

We try to be quietly smart.

We take chances sometimes to get on.

We will fail sometimes.

We will be affected by the wider world…

But we hold on to who we are.

It was clear from his stories that we were part of a tradition, that long pre-dated us, and would long exist after us.  The stories left you feeling proud to be part of that tradition, but very aware that as individuals we were bound by duty to carry it on, bound to try and live by those values.  His main lesson was above all to get along with people; don’t burn your bridges or they will stay down for a long time.  Having the same families live and work alongside each other for many centuries created a unique kind of society with special values.

In my grandfather’s world, a person’s life was not a thing of his own invention, a new thing on a blank slate.  We are bound by our landscape.  Shaped by it.  Defined by it.”

“We are, I guess, all of us, built out of stories.”

 

“From the beginning my grandfather taught me the classic worldview of what Europeans would call a peasant, and we would simply call a farmer.  We owned the earth.  We’d been here forever.  And we always would be.  We would get battered from time to time, but we would endure and win.  There was also a strong sense of what others would call egalitarianism, which exists in many pastoral communities in northern Europe, that judged a man or woman on their work, their livestock, and their participation.”

 

On education and the younger generation: his grandparents actively discouraged him from reading

“The gist of it was that there couldn’t possibly be so little else of value to do on the farm that I could justify reading a book in daylight hours.  Books were considered a sign of idleness at best and dangerous at worst.  My school successes…also seemed to worry my grandfather, like a flashing warning light that he might lose his heir to another culture.”

 

“My grandfather was aware of the modern world, and could adapt to it.  But he also held its values and newfangled inventions at arm’s length.”

 

More criticisms of modern life:

“It [school] also made me think that modern life is rubbish for so many people.  How few choices it gives them.  How it lays out in front of them a future that bores most of them so much they can’t wait to get smashed out of their heads each weekend.  How little most people are believed in, and how much it asks of so many people for so little in return.”

 

Author went to Oxford(!!) after he fought with his dad and wanted to leave the farm for a few years to do his own thing.  He played up his northern hick background to get in (education bit was covered by taking night classes and reading craptons of books).  But he always felt a bit out of place with the other students:

“They were okay, but they were all very similar; they struggled to have different opinions because they’d never failed at anything or been nobodies, and they thought they would always win.  But this isn’t most people’s experience of life.  He [the prof] asked me what could be done about it.  I told him the answer was to send them all out for a year to do some dead-end job like working in a chicken processing plant or spreading muck with a tractor.  It would do more good than a gap year in Peru.”

 

Since farming doesn’t make money, he works as a whitecollar remote worker (expert advisor to the UNESCO world heritage centre in Paris) freelance to ensure that tourism benefits host communities.  He gets to travel and do random things.  But at the end of the day, he comes back to the farm.

 

Ending thoughts on freedom and shepherding:

“There is nothing like the feeling of freedom and space that you get when you are working with the flock and the dogs in the fells.  I escape the nonsense that tries to consume me below.  My life has a purpose, an earthy, sensible meaning. …This is an ancient, hard-earned, local kind of freedom that was stolen from people elsewhere…Ours is a rooted and local kind of freedom tied to working common land, the freedom of the commoner, a community-based relationship with land.  By remaining in a place, working on it, and paying my dues, I am entitled to a share of its commonwealth. …There is a thrill in the timelessness up there; I have always liked the feeling of carrying on something bigger than me, something that stretches back through other hands and other eyes into the depths of time.  To work there is a humbling thing, the opposite of conquering a mountain if you like; it liberates you from any illusion of self-importance.  I am only one of the current graziers on our fell…a small link in a very long chain.”

 

If you visit Lake District, go during spring/summer–snow may still be there as late as May, but by April it should be OK.

 

Reading rec/inspirational text:

A Shepherd’s Life by W.H. Hudson

Reflections on The Emperor of All Maladies

I’ve been listening to Siddhartha Mukherjee’s The Emperor of All Maladies [public library] on audiobook for the past few days.  The book is a history of cancer and the medical community’s various efforts to fight the disease.

What I have learned thus far:

#1.  If I were dropped back in the 1800s or prior without access to modern medicine, practicing proper sanitation/hygiene, using carbolic acid on cuts to prevent infection, and staying the fuck away from “doctors” will expand my lifespan considerably.  In fact, seeing a “doctor” (aka butcher/quack) is most likely to result in a very painful death (e.g. by infection, blood loss, traumatic surgery, poisoning, etc.)

#2.  Preventative care for the win, because it sounds like cancer is mostly incurable and all the treatments sound extremely painful.  Basically, cut sugar, do keto, and start intermittent fasting to clean out the useless cellular detritus in your body and signal to your body that now is NOT the time to go on an uncontrolled growth binge because resources are tight.

#3.  Just because someone is a doctor doesn’t mean they automatically know the right answers.  You need to do your own research and come to your own conclusions.  Some doctors don’t know jack shit.  And/or their egos are so inflated that they can’t even see that they don’t know jack shit.  Which results in poor patient care and outcomes.  Basically, no one cares about your life more than you.  So take what they tell you with a grain of salt.

#4.  Sometimes you gotta make a decision about whether you want to die a dignified controlled low-pain death, or eke out a few more extra days/months in extreme pain in the hospital.  Is it worth it to try those experimental trials?  Is it worth it to go through radical untested surgeries?  Sometimes irrational hope leads to a painful and ignoble way to die.  To the extent that you have the choice in how you die, you should make a reasoned choice.  Personally, if I catch an incurable disease, I’d rather not put myself through that extra misery, and I’d rather spare my family the hardship/burden (emotionally, financially, temporally) of going through a long expensive complicated and painful treatment process.  (But then, maybe I have an obligation to the rest of society/future patients to be a good little data point in that experimental trial so that my death can contribute to the medical corpus and maybe help with the search for a cure.)

#5.  Whenever I read history, I am reminded of how lucky I am to have been born in the 20th century.  To be able to live in a first world country (in what some might argue, is the best country in the world).  To have access to public sanitation, clean water, relatively unpolluted living environs, healthy(ish) food, civil rights, and of course, medical care that is usually more likely to make you feel better rather than worse.  I have been hospitalized twice in my life, and I am grateful that I had good experiences and came out fully recovered.  I had a life-threatening disease that would have killed me in any other prior era, but instead I was cured and got to live.  So thank you, all the people who have gone before me, who have died to make the world what it is today.  All of you heroes, experimenters, mad scientists, human guinea pigs, activists, politicians, donors, biochemists, and everyone else who quietly worked to make the world a better place.  I will do my best to pay it forward so that the next generation is also able to feel this sense of awe and gratitude.

A Field Guide to Getting Lost Book Notes

A Field Guide to Getting Lost [public library], by Rebecca Solnit, is a series of essays exploring what it means to get lost, the benefits thereof, its role in personal transformation, and a retelling of stories about her past and her life.  Some of this is like therapy for herself, coming to terms with family/friend issues.  Other essays deal with pieces of history, cultural differences, art history, movie/former writing, nature, etc.

The language is a bit annoying (she is too wordy).  People who like obscure literary/art references, flowery language, and artsy (what I associate with high brow New Yorker hoity toityness) would like this book.  I can understand why Brain Pickings LOVED this book (it’s very geared for that kind of audience).  It feels fluffy even though it addresses some deep topics (e.g. abandonment, child abuse, suicide).  Unfortunately the fluffiness doesn’t allow for a full exploration of that depth, although the book is not completely shallow.  Perhaps it’s that she sneaks up on touchy/deep subjects, sidles alongside, pokes it a few times, and then is away before you even really realized anything happened.  The obliqueness is annoying though, at least for me.  And perhaps this entire book was better for the writer (as therapy) than for the reader (who is just confused).

 

“Leave the door open for the unknown, the door into the dark.  That’s where the most important things come from, where you yourself came from, and where you will go.”

 

Meno: “How will you go about finding that thing the nature of which is totally known to you?”

“The things we want are transformative, and we don’t know or only think we know what is on the other side of that transformation.  Love, wisdom, grace, inspiration–how do you go about finding these things that are in some ways about extending the boundaries of the self into unknown territory, about becoming someone else?”

 

On literal getting lost:

It usually happens b/c ppl are (1) not paying attn, (2) don’t know how to get back, or (3) don’t admit they don’t know

“Children…are good at getting lost, because ‘the key in survival is knowing you’re lost’: they don’t stray far, they curl up in some sheltered place at night, they know they need help.”

 

There’s one art to reading the landscape of things and knowing your way around (domain knowledge), but another art to remain calm in the face of the unknown (which is a general skill that one can develop and then apply across multiple domains)–if you remain calm in the face of the unknown and know how to get yourself unlost, you’re never truly lost per se, just not fully aware of specifically where you are at a particular point in time

“‘I never was lost in the woods in my whole life, said Daniel Boone, ‘though once I was confused for three days.’”

 

Historian Aaron Sachs: “[Explorers] were always lost, because they’d never been to these places before.  They never expected to know exactly where they were.  Yet at the same time, many of them knew their instruments pretty well and understood their trajectories within a reasonable degree of accuracy.  In my opinion, their most important skill was simply a sense of optimism about surviving and finding their way.”

 

Cultures who value wandering:

  • Crisis happens in your life, perhaps some kind of unbearable loss or shaking of the foundations of your identity/narrative
  • You must lose yourself and divorce yourself from all the normal triggers of your life that bring about uncomfortable reminders
  • You go wandering into the wild places, alone, or with little company, to outposts and small villages, places where you can lose yourself
  • Rinse and repeat until you die, or until you find some measure of wisdom/acceptance on this journey and then return as a shaman/wisewoman/man

Some people need to destroy their old identities and find new ones.  Or life deals them some radical shift such that by the time they acclimate to their new situation they find that they’ve changed themselves to a person who would no longer be comfortable in their old life (even if they originally wanted to return to the old life).

 

Interesting tidbit about tarot card for Justice:

“Justice, a book on classical lore asserted, stood at the gates of Hades deciding who would go in, and to go in was to be chosen for refinement through suffering, adventure, transformation, a punishing route to the reward that is the transformed self.”

 

Regarding desire: instead of always focusing on how to get what you desire, maybe you should change your perspective and just enjoy the sensation of desiring something.  To “look across the distance without wanting to close it up”.

 

“Beauty is often spoken of as though it only stirs lust or admiration, but the most beautiful people are so in a way that makes them look like destiny or fate or meaning, the heroes of a remarkable story.  Desire for them is in part a desire for a noble destiny, and beauty can seem like a door to meaning as well as to pleasure.”

 

Interesting take on Persephone myth:

“Maybe Persephone was glad to run off with the king of death to his underground realm, maybe it was the only way she could break away from her mother, maybe Demeter was a bad parent the way that Lear was a bad parent, denying nature, including the nature of children to leave their parents.  Maybe Persephone thought Hades was the infinitely cool older man who held the knowledge she sought, maybe she loved the darkness, the six months of winter, the sharp taste of pomegranates, the freedom from her mother, maybe she knew that to be truly alive death must be part of the picture just as winter must.  It was as the queen of hell that she became an adult and came into power.”

 

On people who do reckless things:

“I wonder now about Marine’s abandon.  In a way it seems brave to me, this charging into adventure without fear of consequences.  Or was it a desperation in which there were more terrible things than death, a desire so urgent for the anesthesia, distraction, and sense of destiny drugs seem to offer, even a desire for death?  Was I cowardly not to want to explore the farther reaches of consciousness, afraid of getting lost, of being unable to return?”

 

“Adulthood is made up of a prudent anticipation and a philosophical memory that make you navigate more slowly and steadily.  But fear of making mistakes can itself become a huge mistake, one that prevents you from living, for life is risky and anything less is already loss.”

 

Awareness per a Zen teacher:

Seeing how you balance between fear and complacency when approaching a new situation

“…human beings have asked themselves, Hmmm, how do I engage this process in a way that I don’t become too frightened by what it might unfold or too complacent by avoiding it?  This is the delicate work of awareness.”

“We see someone and make up a story about who they are, and sometimes we get ourselves into a lot of trouble with the stories we make up as we weave our world.  And the practice of awareness doesn’t say don’t weave your world.  That’s what we’re hardwired to do…The practice of awareness says don’t grasp it too tightly, don’t be too convinced.  And in that simpler way of being…it’s okay to sometimes experience not knowing what to do next, to run into a barrier.  It’s okay to realize that life has a mysterious quality to it, it has an element of uncertainty, it’s okay to realize that we do need help, that calling out for help is a very generous act because it allows others to help us and it allows us to be helped.”

Absolutely on Music Book Notes

Every once in a while, I will finish a book I should have stopped reading 20 pages in.  Usually this is due to some bullheadedness on my part: I should like this book, damn it, so maybe if I just read a few more pages I’ll get into it?  And then a few hundred pages later, I close the book and realize it was a lost cause.

That being said, this book, Absolutely on Music [public library] was just too outside of my realm of knowledge to be engaging.  It’s one of Murakami’s nonfiction books.  And since I loved his What I Talk About When I Talk About Running [public library] so much, I kept trying to give this book more chances (which alas is what I tend to do to his fiction books, which I tend regret spending time to read after the fact).  Anyways, this book is a conversation between Murakami and Seiji Ozawa, one of the most famous conductors of classical music in the world, and the first famous Japanese conductor in that world.  Their conversations range from classical music and different interpretations of the same songs by different conductors/orchestras, how writing is like conducting, and various interesting stories from Ozawa’s life and work.  There are some vignettes from Ozawa’s early work history under Lenny Bernstein and Karajan (famous conductors?), later career and recordings, foray into opera, his impromptu/once-a-year orchestra in Japan, and involvement in music education in the string quartet camps he created.

Honestly, if I was a bigger classical music buff, I’m sure I would have gotten so much more out of this.  Or, maybe, if I had listened to this book on audio and they included soundtracks of the different songs they discussed, I would have more context to put their conversations in.  As it stood, it made me feel very ignorant of a deep world of music, as if they were talking about things I had no experience of, despite playing violin in an orchestra for 7 years.  Then again, I was at best an indifferent violinist…Anyways.  If you are a classical music buff and get the song references below, you’ll get a kick out of this book, and perhaps will understand the nuances of musical interpretation that various conductors and symphonies have.

More general non-music related takeaways:

  • It helps if you have the talent and if you start practicing early, but nothing replaces hard work ethic.
  • In art, possibly there is some inescapable innate talent required.  But this might also be a function of life experience.
  • Stay the fuck away from politics.  Assume the best of everyone, work hard, help people out, be passionate about things, always try to do the best for your particular tribe, and generally you’ll be treated well.
  • The more you take on, the more voracious you are about learning, the faster you will learn–if you’re willing the price in time and outwork your peers, that will all pay off.
  • Every master has their own unique style.  You should focus on thinking about what unique thing YOU want to bring into the world is, what your world view is.  Technical mastery is one thing, but without vision you’re only good as a tool for someone else to direct.
  • If you are passionate about something and pay attention to the details, you don’t need a degree or advanced study to pick up on fascinating patterns and variations.  You just need to pay very close attention.
  • Again, do what you love and it won’t feel like work.  Or at least, it will feel meaningful enough that even when it feels like work you’ll still be motivated to stick with it.
  • Ozawa’s early career success sounds like an example of Ryan Holiday’s idea of the canvas strategy–he took on extra work to make his bosses’ lives easier, and since they were famous conductors, he got to learn their techniques and build relationships which resulted in them recommending him for prestigious conductorships around the world.

 

Book Notes:

 

Murakami–musical layman, no technical training, just knows that he likes good music

“Basically, I believe that music exists to make people happy.”

 

Things Ozawa and Murakami have in common–a sense of craftsmanship, flow, and purpose in work:

“…what I mean here is that I can feel a sense of identity in the way we live our lives.

First of all, both of us seem to take the same simple joy in our work. …both of us are happiest when absorbed in our work.  And the very fact that we are able to become so totally engrossed in it gives us the deepest satisfaction.  What we end up producing as a result of that work may well be important, but aside from that, our ability to work with utter concentration and to devote ourselves to it so completely that we forget the passage of time is its own irreplaceable reward.

Secondly, we both maintain the same ‘hungry heart’ we possessed in our youth, that persistent feeling that ‘this is not good enough,’ that we must dig deeper, forge farther ahead.  This is the major motif of our work and our lives. …

The third of our shared traits is stubbornness.  We’re patient, tough, and, finally, just plain stubborn.  Once we’ve decided to do something in a certain way, it doesn’t matter what anybody says, that’s how we’re going to do it.  And even if, as a result, we find ourselves in dire straits, possibly even hated, we will take responsibility for our actions without making excuses. …”

 

On the self-centeredness of creative pursuits:

“Creative people have to be fundamentally egoistic, this may sound pompous, but it happens to be the truth.  People who live their lives watching what goes on around them, trying not to make waves, and looking for the easy compromise are not going to be able to do creative work, whatever their field.”

 

On habits of working:

“Like Ozawa, I also get up at four in the morning and concentrate on my work, alone.  In winter, it’s still pitch dark, with no hint of sunrise and no sound of birds singing.  I spend five or six hours at my desk, sipping hot coffee and single-mindedly tapping away at the keyboard.  I’ve been living like this for more than a quarter of a century. …It often occurs to me that this life of mine would not exist if I lacked the ability to concentrate.”

 

On work as life:

“As I watched him in action, however, one thing dawned on me: He can’t help himself; he has to do this.  His doctor, his gym trainer, his friends, and his family could all try to stop him (and of course they did try, to a greater or lesser degree), but this was something he had to do.  For Seiji Ozawa, music was the indispensable fuel that kept him moving through life. …There was only one way in this world for him to feel truly alive, and that was for him to create music with his own hands and to thrust it as a living, throbbing thing into the faces of an audience: ‘Here!’  Who could possibly tell him to stop?”

“To put it simply, this man was living in a world that transcended reasonable ways of thinking, just as a wolf can only live deep in the forest.”

 

Music:

Beethoven Third Piano Concerto in C minor

Beethoven’s 9th

Beethoven’s Fidelio opera

Beethoven’s String quartet no. 16, no6, no13

Brahms’s Piano Concerto No. 1 (in D minor)

Brahms First Symphony

Berlioz (who is apparently crazy) Benvenuto Cellini; Symphonie fantastique; Grandes Messes des Morts, The Damnation of Faust

Mahler Ninth

Mahler Second Symphony

Mahler Fifth Symphony

Mahler First Symphony

Mahler’s Das Lied von der Erde

Mahler Eighth Symphony

Bruckner Ninth

Mozart’s string quartet no. 15 in D minor (K. 421)

Mozart’s Divertimento K 136

Mozart’s Haffner Symphony

Bartok’s Concerto for Orchestra

Bartok Piano Concerto No 1

Bartok Piano Concerto No 3

Bartok Divertimento for String Orchestra

Toru Takemitsu’s November Steps

Tchaikovsky’s Serenade for Strings

Tchaikovsky Piano Concerto no1

Tchaikovsky’s Eugene Onegin

Tchaikovsky’s Fifth Symphony

Tchaikovsky’s Fourth Symphony

Tchaikovsky’s Queen of Spades

Handel’s Concerti Grossi

Bach Brandenburg concerto

Bach Well-Tempered Clavier

Schoenberg’s Verklarte Nacht

Poulenc opera

Honegger opera

Sibelius Fifth Symphony

Richard Strauss’s Elektra opera

Richard Strauss Burleske

Richard Strauss Metamorphosen

Schumann Piano Concerto

Messiaen’s Turangalila Symphony, Oiseaux exotiques, Saint Francois d’Assise

Stravinsky’s Rite of Spring

Stravinsky’s Firebird and Petrushka

Mussorgsky’s Pictures at an Exhibition

Mussorgsky’s Boris Godunov

Orff’s Carmina Burana

Debussy’s La Mer

Debussy’s Pelleas et Melisande

Britten’s War Requiem

Ravel’s L’Enfant et les sortileges

Ravel String Quartet in F Major

Rigoletto opera

Don Giovanni opera

Cosi fan tutte opera

Idomeneo

Falstaff

Turandot

Tosca

La Boheme

Madam Butterfly

Manon Lescaut

Jenufa

Tannhauser

Ginastera’s Estancia op. 8

Weber’s Oberon

Haydn’s String Quartet No 75, op 76, no1

Smetana’s String Quartet no1

Janacek String Quartet no1

Schubert String Quartet no13

Mendelssohn String Octet in E flat major

Grieg’s Holberg Suite

Dvorak’s Serenade for Strings

Hugo Wolf Italian Serenade

 

On empty spaces:

“In Japan we talk about ma in Asian music–the importance of those pauses or empty spaces–but it’s there in Western music, too.  …Not everybody can do it–certainly no ordinary musician. …Or if they do, the spaces don’t fit in as naturally as this. [in Glenn Gould’s Beethoven Concerto]  It doesn’t grab you–you don’t get drawn in as you do here.  That’s what putting in these empty spaces, or ma, is all about, isn’t it?  You grab your audience and pull them in.”

 

On the similarity between music and writing to Murakami:

“No one ever taught me how to write, and I’ve never made a study of writing techniques.  So how did I learn to write?  From listening to music.  And what’s the most important thing in writing?  It’s rhythm.  No one’s going to read what you write unless it’s got rhythm.  It has to have an inner rhythmic feel that propels the reader forward.”

“…the rhythm comes from the combination of words, the combination of the sentences and paragraphs, the pairings of hard and soft, light and heavy, balance and imbalance, the punctuation, the combination of different tones.  ‘Polyrhythm’ might be the right word for it, as in music.  You need a good ear to do it.  You either can do it or you can’t.  You either get it or you don’t.  Of course, it is possible to extend one’s talent for rhythm through hard work and study.. …I write as if I’m making music.”

 

Ozawa’s 10K hours:

As a young conductor, he acted as the assistant conductor to Lenny Bernstein, conductor for the NY Phil.  B/c Ozawa was poor and obsessed with music, he ended up spending almost all of his time at the rehearsal hall, poring over scores, reading scores, watching rehearsals, watching the conductor, sounding things out on the piano, etc.  Altho there were 3 assistant conductors and they were supposed to divide up scores evenly to cover in case Lenny got sick, in practice Ozawa learned everyone’s scores b/c the other 2 assistants had other jobs and occasionally also couldn’t make it.  So his sense of responsibility meant that he learned 3x as fast and worked 3x as hard.

 

Interesting: the same songs sound different when played by different symphonies (even if same conductor).  The same conductor may choose to express the music differently at different points in his life: enthusiastically when young, more nuanced/nurtured/mature when older

 

On Ozawa’s technique (he seems to think it was innate, or learned early on in college w/Prof Saito, but then it turns out he had been conducting orchestras since middle school):

“So then, when I got to observe Lenny or Maestro Karajan conducting close-up, I pretty much understood what they were doing.  I could see what they were trying to do.  I could look at them analytically.  So it never occurred to me to mimic their techniques.  By contrast, someone who doesn’t have his own technique in place ends up imitating someone else’s outward form, just superficially copying another person’s movements.  That didn’t happen with me.”

 

On how vision is necessary before one can usefully apply technique:

“MURAKAMI: Yes, but even before that–you have to have a clear image in your own mind of exactly what you want to do and how you want to do it.  If you’re writing fiction, say, it’s important to be able to write, of course, but before that you have to have a strong sense in mind of something you are determined to write about.  As far as I can tell from your records, at least, you always had a strong self-image from the time you were young.”

“It seems to me that the world is full of musicians who…while they have a high overall level of technical mastery and can perform music that may be technically flawless, they rarely communicate a distinct worldview.  They don’t seem to have a strong determination to create their own unique worlds and convey them to people with raw immediacy.”

 

On Ozawa and the canvas strategy (part 2):

When Lenny (Bernstein) went on sabbatical, Ozawa “house-sat” the orchestra for him, which meant doing chores for the orchestra, inviting guest conductors, making the arrangements for the guests, etc.  He became friends with these famous guest conductors, who later recommended him to lead other famous symphonies around the country.

 

On connections between music and art:

“And when I first saw the work of Klimt and Egon Schiele, they came as a real shock to me.  Since then, I’ve made it a point to go to art museums.  When you look at the art of the time, you understand something about the music.”

“There’s something about it [Klimt’s art], I don’t know, that tells you about the importance of madness, or that transcends things like morality.  And in fact, at the time, morality was breaking down, and there was a lot of sickness going around.”

 

What is special about Ozawa (ability to deep dive into music and see it high level all at once):

“Maybe it’s a bit too much to be talking about ‘special powers,’ but there are these people who have the ability to simultaneously take in all parts of some complex object or some convoluted idea all at once, like taking a high-resolution photograph of it.  Maybe you have something like that going on with music rather than understanding it through logical analysis.”

 

Ozawa insulates himself from politics by being bad at the language and purposefully distancing himself from it.  Also he seems rather oblivious to ppl being mean to him, and tends to assume the best of ppl, which perhaps causes them to treat him better.

Gratitude (graceful essays on death) Book Notes

Gratitude [public library] is a collection of 4 essays written by Oliver Sacks, the famous neurologist/writer, shortly before he dies of cancer.  These essays include reflections on how he feels as an 80 yr old, vignettes from his life, things he appreciates, his hobbies, finally coming to terms with some of his wobbly bits (i.e. publicly coming out), how he came to be who he is, what his interpretation of the meaning of life is, etc.  It’s a very short but charming read (pair with Insomniac City), and reminds me a bit of When Breath Becomes Air [public library] in its approach to death.

Takeaways:

  • Everything in life should be appreciated because it has an upside and a lesson, including death (bringing clarity/urgency on what’s important in life) and old age (wisdom, perspective)
  • One should take a Stoic approach to death, no hysterics, just accept the facts and do the best with what is within your control
  • In the end, what is important is your tribe (family, friends, work peers, and in this case book readers) and your relationships, and the sense that you have given back to the world with your work
  • Recognize how you cope with loss, what your brand of escapism is, and embrace it (turn it into a strength–addictive personalities can achieve six sigma results if passionate about the right things; relatedly, find things to obsess about)
  • Think about your death, the transience of life, and the immensity of the universe (and your small place in it); this will prompt you to appreciate the beauty of fleeting moments, to put your troubles in perspective, to allow you to focus on the bigger picture, and to lend more urgency and willpower to your actions
  • Consider introducing a rest day into your life where you focus on meditation, no media/electronics, long walks in nature, introspection, thinking/reading/writing, and napping

 

Book notes:

On gratitude to be alive:

“At nearly eighty, with a scattering of medical and surgical problems, none disabling, I feel glad to be alive–’I’m glad I’m not dead!’ sometimes bursts out of me when the weather is perfect. …I am grateful that I have experienced many things–some wonderful, some horrible–and that I have been able to write a dozen books, to receive innumerable letters from friends, colleagues, and readers, and to enjoy what Nathaniel Hawthorne called ‘an intercourse with the world.’”

[meaning and significance from writing and correspondence with his tribe about his work]

 

When he was 41, he broke his leg mountaineering alone and thought he would die, had these memories: “Most were in a mode of gratitude–gratitude for what I had been given by others, gratitude too that I had been able to give something back.  Awakenings, my second book, had been published the previous year.”

 

Old age does not cure all of our foibles and insecurities and shortcomings:

“I am sorry I have wasted (and still waste) so much time; I am sorry to be as agonizingly shy at eighty as I was at twenty; I am sorry that I speak no languages but my mother tongue and that I have not traveled or experienced other cultures as widely as I should have done.”

 

But old age does have some benefits:

“My father, who lived to ninety-four, often said that the eighties had been one of the most enjoyable decades of his life.  He felt, as I begin to feel, not a shrinking but an enlargement of mental life and perspective.  One has had a long experience of life, not only one’s own life, but others’ too.  One has seen triumphs and tragedies, booms and busts, revolutions and wars, great achievements and deep ambiguities.  One has seen grand theories rise, only to be toppled by stubborn facts.  One is more conscious of transience and, perhaps, of beauty.  At eighty, one can take a long view and have a vivid, lived sense of history not possible at an earlier age.  I can imagine, feel in my bones, what a century is like, which I could not do when I was forty or sixty.  I do not think of old age as an ever grimmer time that one must somehow endure and make the best of, but as a time of leisure and freedom, freed from the factitious urgencies of earlier days, free to explore whatever I wish, and to bind the thoughts and feelings of a lifetime together.”

 

On the things that matter most to him/what gives meaning and significance to life:

“Perhaps, with luck, I will make it, more or less intact, for another few years and be granted the liberty to continue to love and work, the two most important things, Freud insisted, in life.”

 

“…I want and hope in the time that remains to deepen my friendships, to say farewell to those I love, to write more, to travel if I have the strength, to achieve new levels of understanding and insight.

This will involve audacity, clarity, and plain speaking; trying to straighten my accounts with the world.  But there will be time, too, for some fun (and even some silliness, as well.”

 

“And now, weak, short of breath, my once-firm muscles melted away by cancer, I find my thoughts, increasingly, not on the supernatural or spiritual but on what is meant by living a good and worthwhile life–achieving a sense of peace within oneself.”

 

On how to face death:

“When my time comes, I hope I can die in harness, as Francis Crick did.  When he was told that his colon cancer had returned, at first he said nothing; he simply looked into the distance for a minute and then resumed his previous train of thought.  When pressed about his diagnosis a few weeks later, he said, ‘Whatever has a beginning must have an ending.’  When he died, at eighty-eight, he was still fully engaged in his most creative work.”

 

After finding out his cancer had returned and that he had only a few months to live:

“It is up to me now to choose how to live out the months that remain to me.  I have to live in the richest, deepest, most productive way I can.”

[a very Stoic approach to things–just focus on what you can control and don’t bother worrying about the things you cannot change, such as impending death]

 

On the detachment/clarity of thought that knowing you are about to die gives you:

“Over the last few days, I have been able to see my life as from a great altitude, as a sort of landscape, and with a deepening sense of the connection of all its parts.  This does not mean I am finished with life.”

“I feel a sudden clear focus and perspective.  There is no time for anything inessential.  I must focus on myself, my work, and my friends.  I shall no longer look at the NewsHour every night.  I shall no longer pay any attention to politics or arguments about global warming.” [How can one get this sense of urgency without that known death sentence/limited life span of months hanging over your head?]

 

On Sacks’ personality (sounds like he is one of those obsessive addictive personalities, so it was good that he found a passion/obsession in his work instead of stg less healthy):

“…I am a man of vehement disposition, with violent enthusiasms, and extreme immoderation in all my passions.”

“When I moved to Los Angeles, I found a sort of community among the weight lifters on Muscle Beach, and with my fellow neurology residents at U.C.L.A., but I craved some deeper connection– ‘meaning’–in my life, and it was the absence of this, I think, that drew me into near-suicidal addiction to amphetamines in the 1960s.

Recovery started, slowly, as I found meaningful work in New York, in a chronic care hospital in the Bronx…I was fascinated by my patients there, cared for them deeply, and felt something of a mission to tell their stories…I had discovered my vocation, and this I pursued doggedly, single-mindedly, with little encouragement from my colleagues.”

 

He deals with emotional loss/stress by escaping to science/#s (similar to Alan Turing):

“I have tended since early boyhood to deal with loss–losing people dear to me–by turning to the nonhuman.  When I was sent away to a boarding school as a child of six, at the outset of the Second World War, numbers became my friends; when I returned to London at ten, the elements and the periodic table became my companions.  Times of stress throughout my life have led me to turn, or return, to the physical sciences, a world where there is no life, but also no death.  

And now, at this juncture, when death is no longer an abstract concept, but a presence–an all-too-close, not-to-be-denied presence–I am again surrounding myself, as I did when I was a boy, with metals and minerals, little emblems of eternity.”

Sacks has a little coffee table that has a collection of metals and minerals that are the periodic table of elements (every birthday, he gets himself the relevant element)–Thallium is for 81st bday, lead for 82nd bday

 

Thoughts on death:

“There will be no one like us when we are gone, but then there is no one like anyone else, ever.  When people die, they cannot be replaced.  They leave holes that cannot be filled, for it is the fate–the genetic and neural fate–of every human being to be a unique individual, to find his own path, to live his own life, to die his own death.”

[If deaths leave holes, then perhaps a solution is to fill your life up with so many new people that your world keeps expanding, and there is always more warmth than holes.  You can’t replace people, but you can replace relationships to some extent.]

 

Looking at the stars in the countryside:

“It was this celestial splendor that suddenly made me realize how little time, how little life, I had left.  My sense of the heavens’ beauty, of eternity, was inseparably mixed for me with a sense of transience–and death.”

[Reminds me of Japanese haikus and their appreciation for the beauty of transience.]

Random aside–Sacks was friends with Auden!  And Crick of Watson and Crick fame!  I guess they were alive during the same era and were part of the British intelligensia set, but I am still charmed by the unexpected connections.

“Auden used to say that one should always celebrate one’s birthday, no matter how one felt.”

 

Final essay in the book is a lot more personal–about his family, coming to terms with and healing separations and divides.

Sabbath: holy day when you are not to work, drive, use the telephone, turn on the light, or turn on the stove

Ritual starts on Friday–evening meal is 1st meal of Sabbath, you wear special clothes, say prayers, light candels, etc.

On Sabbath/Saturday, you go to synagogue and then do family visits with tea since all the extended family lives close by

“‘The observance of the Sabbath is extremely beautiful…and is impossible without being religious.  It is not even a question of improving society–it is about improving one’s own quality of life.’”

 

Formative event in his life:

When he was 18, his father made him admit he was gay, and then told his mother against Oliver’s wishes.  Mother “came down with a look of horror on her face, and shrieked at me: ‘You are an abomination.  I wish you had never been born.’”

“…her harsh words made me hate religion’s capacity for bigotry and cruelty.”  Then once he qualified as a doctor, he immediately left England and all the life/family he had there, and went to LA where he knew no one.

 

Later, in his 80s, he goes back to visit family in Israel for a cousin’s 100th bday and brings his lover Billy, where they are invited to a Sabbath meal–his reconciliation with his Orthodox Jewish past:

“The peace of the Sabbath, of a stopped world, a time outside time, was palpable, infused everything, and I found myself drenched with wistfulness, something akin to nostalgia, wondering what if: What if A and B and C had been different?  What sort of person might I have been?  What sort of a life might I have lived?”

 

Reading recs:

Hume’s autobiography ‘My Own Life’

Sacks’ other books about his patients: Awakenings, The Man Who Mistook His Wife for a Hat, Musicophilia, Hallucinations

Sacks’ memoir: On the Move

Insomniac City: New York, Oliver, and Me Book Notes

A quick diversion to finish a new book that’s been popular–Bill Hayes’  Insomniac City: New York, Oliver, and Me [public library].  It’s about living and falling in love with Oliver Sachs, life in NYC, being a person in the world, and grief and loss.  The author is very good at telling little stories and vignettes about Oliver and life in and the people of NYC.  Bill’s Oliver was a charming super nerdy and romantic old man, a Renaissance man of diverse interests and extreme curiosity, childishly innocent in some ways, and basically super endearing.  This was a short and easy read (~3 hrs), highly recommend.

 

Notes

On NY:

“I have come to believe that kindness is repaid in unexpected ways and that if you are lonely or bone-tired or blue, you need only come down from your perch and step outside.  New York–which is to say, New Yorkers–will take care of you.”

 

“It requires a certain kind of unconditional love to love living here.  But New York repays you in time in memorable encounters, at the very least.  Just remember: Ask first, don’t grab, be fair, say please and thank you, always say thank you–even if you don’t get something back right away.  You will.”

 

“I once met a woman who was an astronaut…She told me that the coolest thing about life in space was not the weightlessness or the incredible speed with which you travel, but the view of Earth from hundreds of miles away.  You cannot imagine how beautiful it is.  And when you’re in orbit, the sun rises sixteen times a day.

That pretty much sums up how I feel about New York.”

 

“I remember how Wendy once told me she loved New York so much she couldn’t bear the thought of it going on without her.  It seemed like both the saddest and the most romantic thing one could possibly say–sad because New York can never return the sentiment, and sad because it’s the kind of things aid more often about a romantic love–husband, wife, girlfriend, partner, lover.  You can’t imagine them going on without you.  But they do.  We do.  Every day, we wake up and say, What’s the point?  Why go on?  And, there is really only one answer: To be alive.”

 

On Loss:

From a minister: “Suffering a devastating loss is like suffering a brain injury…you walk around like a zombie.  You can’t think straight.  You feel drugged…”

 

Pretty language:

“The night after he died, I found that a sliver of light from a streetlamp shone through the blinds just so and cast a single yellowy tendril across his pillow.  It was the opposite of a shadow.  Which is as clear a definition I can come up with for the soul.”

 

When someone close to you dies (e.g. spouse), it takes about 3 years for the pain to go away.  Est. 1000 days.

 

“He [O] urges me to go out with friends and have some laughs.  ‘When my mother died,’ he tells me, ‘my oldest friend called up straightaway and told me three scandalously obscene jokes in a row.  I laughed uproariously, and then the tears came.’

I followed his advice.”

 

Pretty language:

“How I take a shower with the sun, a bird and a squirrel watching me.” (Sun bathing?)

 

On Oliver Sach’s living under a rock:

“O often said he had no knowledge of popular culture after 1955, and this was not an exaggeration.  He did not know popular music, rarely watched anything on TV but the news, did not enjoy contemporary fiction, and had zero interest in celebrities or fame (including his own).  He didn’t possess a computer, had never used e-mail or texted; he wrote with a fountain pen.  …there was no denying that his tastes, his habits, his ways–all were irreversibly, fixedly, not of our time.”

 

Before O met Bill, he hadn’t had sex in over 30 yrs–lived as a monk just focusing on work, reading, writing, and thinking.

 

“O: ‘I sometimes think things are not enough until they are too much.  There is no in between for me.’”

 

One of O’s favorite books is Darwin’s The Voyage of the Beagle, which he re-reads often.

 

Romantic/charming/cute (nerd flirting!):

“We talk about a scene in Roman Elegies in which Goethe taps out hexameters on his sleeping lover’s back:

Fingertips counting in time with the sweet rhythmic breath of her slumber,’ O recites from memory.”

 

O: “I’ve suddenly realized what you mean to me: You create the need which you fill, the hunger you sate.  Like Jesus.  And Kierkegaard.  And smoked trout…”

 

“O: ‘I thought being old would be either awful or trivial, and it’s neither.’

I: ‘What makes it not awful and not trivial?’

O: ‘Aside from you, thinking and writing.’”

 

“There is a quiet moment and then, seemingly apropos of nothing, O says: ‘I am glad to be on planet Earth with you.  It would be much lonelier otherwise.’

I reach for his hand and hold it.

‘I, too,’ I say.”

“O: ‘I like having a confusion of agency, your hand on top of mine, unsure where my body ends and yours begins…’”

 

“I curl up next to him [O], an arm over his chest, a leg over his legs.  His eyes are closed, and for a moment I think he has fallen asleep, but no: ‘When you can’t tell where your body ends and the other begins, is that primal, or signs of an advanced evolution?’”

 

“3 A.M., walking into his room to check on him:

O: ‘How did you know…?  How did you know I’d be awake?’

‘I could hear you smile,’ I say.”

 

On the nerdy charm of Oliver Sacks [O-isms]:

“There are rare instances in nature of accelerated evolution.”  EX: white winged butterfly that got dirty from soot in early Industrial Age England and evolved from white to soot colored; city bird that started singing louder to be heard over city traffic sounds

 

“O: ‘Are you conscious of your thoughts before language embodies them?’”

 

“‘I hope I get a good night’s sleep and then have a rush of thoughts, as I did this morning,’ says O. ‘It is very delightful when that happens–all of them rushing to the surface, as if they have been waiting for me to become conscious of them…’”

 

“Wouldn’t it be nice if there were a planet where the sound of rain falling is like Bach?”–O

 

“O talked easily and nonstop, making his signature ‘pronouncements’, as I think of them.

 

For instance: suddenly saying, ‘I find I am very interest in automatism.’

 

I elbowed him: ‘Only Oliver Sacks would say that!’  He started laughing.  ‘Well, why not?  It’s very interesting.  It’s the signal characteristic of homeostasis!’”

[Automatism is the performance of actions without conscious thought or intention.]

 

“Oliver often said that but was his favorite word, a kind of etymological flip of the coin, for it allowed consideration of both sides of an argument, a topic, as well as a kind of looking-at-the-bright-side that was as much a part of his nature as his diffidence and indecisiveness.”

 

“Nicky looked out the window, where he saw a large, bearded man lying on the grass in the garden. ‘What were you doing?’ Nicky asked once he came indoors.

‘I was wondering what it is like to be a rose,’ replied Oliver.”

 

O loves the periodic table of elements.  For each birthday, he gets Billy something made with the relevant element (e.g. xenon light bulbs, iodine in a bottle).  “I do fifty push-ups twice a day while O sits at his desk and counts them out by naming the corresponding elements: ‘titanium, vanadium, chromium, manganese, iron, cobalt…’”

 

“‘Do you know why I love to read Nature and Science every week?’

I turned.  ‘No,’ I shook my head.  I was almost confused; this seemed such a non sequitur.

‘Surprise–I always read something that surprises me,’ he said.”

 

“‘I say I love writing, but really it is thinking I love–that rush of thoughts–new connections in the brain being made.  And it comes out of the blue.’ O smiled. ‘In such moments: I feel such love of the world, love of thinking…’”

 

Read old books.  In O’s library: Shakespeare, Borges, Burgess, Sir Thomas Browne, Darwin, etc.

From Sir Thomas Browne’s Christian Morals: “Reckon not upon long life: think every day the last, and live always beyond thy account.  He that so often surviveth his Expectation lives many Lives, and will scarce complain of the shortness of his days.  Time past is gone like a Shadow; make time to come present…”  

 

“But to be dead–one either is or isn’t.

The same cannot be said of aliveness, of which there are countless degrees.  One can be alive but half-asleep or half-noticing as the years fly…Fortunately, this is a reversible condition.  One can learn to be alert to the extraordinary and press pause–to memorize moments of the everyday.”

 

“Looking back, every life-altering decision I’ve ever made has seemed, at first blush, misguided, misjudged, or plain foolish–and ultimately turned out to be the opposite: every seemingly wrong person I’ve fallen for, every big trip I’ve splurged on, every great apartment taken that I could not realistically afford.  And, really, what is pursuing writing but a case study in an impractical career…?”

 

“It can be yours.  No different from falling in love with a song, one may fall in love with a work of art and claim it as one’s own.  Ownership does not come free.  One must spend time with it; visit at different times of the day or evening; and bring to it one’s full attention.  The investment will be repaid as one discovers something new with each viewing–say, a detail in the background, a person nearly cropped from the picture frame, or a tiny patch of canvas left unpainted, deliberately so, one may assume, as if to remind you not to take all the painted parts for granted.”

 

On Death:

“I don’t so much fear death as I do wasting life.” –Oliver Sacks

 

Upon finding out about his cancer diagnosis and how it had metastasized to his liver:

“He [O] said he was not interested in ‘prolonging life just for the sake of prolonging life.’  Two of his brothers had died of cancer (different forms of cancer), and both had regretted undergoing horrid chemotherapy treatments that had done nothing but ruin their last months.

 

‘I want to be able to write, think, read, swim, be with Billy, see friends, and maybe travel a bit, if possible.’  Oliver added that he hoped not to be in ‘ghastly pain’ or for his condition to become ‘humiliating,’ and then he fell silent.”

 

“But for him [O], ‘time’ meant far more: time to ‘complete’ his life on his own terms, finally coming out publicly as a gay man through his memoir, time to see the book published, time to write pieces he had wanted to write, time to get things in order, time that a sudden and unexpected death, or the slow demise of an illness such as Alzheimer’s, would not allow.”

 

Nunc dimittis: “the final song in a religious service.”

 

O spends his final months writing a lot, visiting friends, spending time with loved ones, and writing more.

 

After O’s passing, Billy cleans the apartment and goes back to his place: “I felt tired, grateful, peaceful, battered, sad, wise, old.  I felt like Odysseus reaching shore.”

 

A Long Way Gone: Memoirs of a Boy Soldier Book Notes

I love books about war.  In particular, books about how war changes human psychology and group dynamics, how it is evolutionarily inevitable or a consequence of certain accidents in history that led us to develop as a species to where we are now.

Last night, I read A Long Way Gone: Memoirs of a Boy Soldier, by Ishmael Beah [public library].  This is not one of those detached overarching examinations of war as a concept and historical/sociological mechanism.  It’s a narrative about one person’s experience of civil war in Sierra Leone as a child and a teen.

Given that people tend to repress, forget, or edit over traumatic memories, I wonder how many of the stories in the book are actually true ones that happened to him, vs. stories that he picked up from fellow child soldiers, aid workers, the media, etc.  I wonder how reliable the narrator is, and whether there are things he left out because they were too painful, or because he feared judgment.  The narration is very matter of fact and detached–I wonder if that is because he isn’t able to emotionally write about how it affected him, or whether the feelings the memories evoke are just not translatable without going through the experience yourself.

Anyways, onto the interesting quotes.

War (and perhaps all traumatic experiences) leaves an indelible mark on the landscape of your inner mind.  “These days I live in three worlds: my dreams, and the experiences of my new life, which trigger memories from the past.”

This is dangerous because without psychological guidance (or an innate tendency towards post-traumatic growth), the mind is unequipped to process everything that has happened to it and turn brutal violence into a coherent narrative for a meaningful life.

The civil war was particularly hard psychologically because of the uncertainty of violence–where would the rebels, the army, strike next?  Was any place truly safe?  “One of the unsettling things about my journey, mentally, physically, and emotionally, was that I wasn’t sure when or where it was going to end.  I didn’t know what I was going to do with my life.  I felt that I was starting over and over again.  I was always on the move, always going somewhere.  While we walked, I sometimes lagged behind, thinking about these things.  To survive each passing day was my goal in life. …It was much easier to be sad than to go back and forth between emotions, and this gave me the determination I needed to keep moving.  I was never disappointed, since I always expected the worst to happen.”

The uncertainty of death and the constant brushes against death is extremely psychologically taxing, especially to a child whose support system is ripped away from him: “Every time people come at us with the intention of killing us, I close my eyes and wait for death.  Even though I am still alive, I feel like each time I accept death, part of me dies.  Very soon I will completely die and all that will be left is my empty body walking with you.  It will be quieter than I am.”  (The speaker dies of some unexplained natural cause soon afterwards.)

And when the narrator finds himself alone in hiding, the loneliness and time to think is almost worse than the actual times of running away from attack: “The most difficult part of being in the forest was the loneliness.  It became unbearable each day.  One thing about being lonesome is that you think too much, especially when there isn’t much else you can do.  I didn’t like this and I tried to stop myself from thinking, but nothing seemed to work.  I decided to just ignore every thought that came to my head, because it brought too much sadness.  Apart from eating and drinking water and once every other day taking a bath, I spent most of my time fighting myself mentally in order to avoid thinking about what I had seen or wondering where my life was going, where my family and friends were.”

After the narrator is recruited to join the army at the age of 12, the army leaders brainwash their soldiers by dehumanizing the rebels, using drug addictions to deaden emotions or get people wired to fight, and using war movie propaganda to set a standard for aspirational behavior.

“Over and over in our training he would say that same sentence: Visualize the enemy, the rebels who killed your parents, your family, and those who are responsible for everything that has happened to you.

They have lost everything that makes them human.  They do not deserve to live.  That is why we must kill every single one of them.  Think of it as destroying a great evil.  It is the highest service you can perform for your country.”

“‘Our job is a serious one and we have the most capable soldiers, who will do anything to defend this country.  We are not like the rebels, those riffraffs who kill people for no reason.  We kill them for the good and betterment of this country.  …’ The lieutenant went on and on with his speech, which was a combination of instilling in the civilians that what we were doing was right and boosting the morale of his men, including us, the boys.  I stood there holding my gun and felt special because I was part of something that took me seriously and I was not running from anyone anymore.”

“We were always either at the front lines, watching a war movie, or doing drugs.  There was no time to be alone or to think.  When we conversed with each other, we only talked about the war movies and how impressed we were with the way either the lieutenant, the corporal, or one of us had killed someone.  It was as if nothing else existed outside our reality.”

“My squad was my family, my gun was my provider and protector, and my rule was to kill or be killed.  The extent of my thoughts didn’t go much beyond that.  We had been fighting for over two years, and killing had become a daily activity.  I felt no pity for anyone.  My childhood had gone by without my knowing, and it seemed as if my heart had frozen.”

In some ways, though, being a child soldier was better than just running away without a tribe to belong to, feeling powerless, living a life without meaning, and always uncertain whether you were going to die the next day or not.  Joining the army was empowering because people were given a coherent narrative for the violence around them, they were given meaning and a narrative to live by, and they were given the resources to be proactive rather than merely reactive (running away).  “I had my gun now, and as the corporal always said, ‘This gun is your source of power in these times.  It will protect you and provide you all you need, if you know how to use it well.’”

Brave Enough Book Notes

This is a short collection of feel good rah rah quotes and aphorisms by advice column queen Cheryl Strayed.  A quick read and possibly a good (easy) intro to her work, this is a consolidation of quotes from her various other works.  If you just want to read the best of Cheryl Strayed, read Tiny Beautiful Things [public library].  It is a collection of her advice column replies as Dear Sugar, and it is raw, beautiful, empathy-teaching, realistic, and possibly the best primer on how to be a good person in our day and age.

From Cheryl Strayed’s Brave Enough [public library]:

“You don’t have to get a job that makes others feel comfortable about what they perceive as your success.  You don’t have to explain what you plan to do with your life.”

 

“Don’t surrender all your joy for an idea you used to have about yourself that isn’t true anymore.”

 

On accepting suffering:

“You do that by simply looking at what pains you squarely in the face and then moving on.  You don’t have to move fast or far.  You can go just an inch.  You can mark your progress breath by breath.”

 

“There are some things you can’t understand yet…it’s good you’ve worked hard to resolve childhood issues while in your twenties, but understand that what you resolve will need to be resolved again.  And again.”

 

“Stop asking yourself what you want, what you desire, what interests you.  Ask yourself instead: What has been given to me?  Ask: What do I have to give back?  Then give it.”

 

On jealousy and bitterness: let go and try to be grateful and hopeful

“There isn’t a thing to eat down there in the rabbit hole of your bitterness except your own desperate heart.”

 

“Hello, fear.  Thank you for being here.  You’re my indication that I’m doing what I need to do.”

 

“The useless days will add up to something.  The shitty waitressing jobs.  The hours writing in your journal.  The long, meandering walks.  The days reading poetry and story collections and novels and dead people’s diaries…”

 

“The unifying theme is being a warrior and a motherfucker.  It is not fragility.  It’s strength.  It’s nerve.  And ‘if your Nerve, deny you–,’ as Emily Dickinson wrote, ‘Go above your Nerve.’”

 

“Some facts of your childhood will remain immutable, but others won’t.  You may never make sense of the bad things that happened to you, but with work and with mindfulness, with understanding and heart, you will make sense of yourself.”

 

“Don’t do what you know on a gut level to be the wrong thing to do.  Don’t stay when you know you should go or go when you know you should stay.  Don’t fight when you should hold steady or hold steady when you should fight.  Don’t focus on the short-term fun instead of the long-term fallout.”

 

“Don’t lament so much about how your career is going to turn out.  You don’t have a career.  You have a life.”

 

“We do not have the right to feel helpless.  We must help ourselves.  After destiny has delivered what it delivers, we are responsible for our lives.”

 

“Accept that their actions hurt you deeply.  Accept that this experience taught you something you didn’t want to know…Accept that it’s going to take a long time for you to get that monster out of your chest.”

 

“It is folly to measure your success in money or fame.  Success is measured only by your ability to say yes to these two questions:

 

Did I do the work I needed to do?
Did I give it everything I had?

Walden Book Notes

Still experimenting with the format and layout of how to share my book notes and where/how on this site they will be organized, but here’s the first one:

Walden, by Henry David Thoreau

 

Man goes out to live by self for 2 yrs in the woods.

 

Stoicism/on the shortness of life themes

Basically, be a minimalist, stop trading your time and happiness for money to buy material luxuries that you don’t really need and won’t make you happy.  Go out and live in the woods, be self sufficient.  Don’t be like other people and don’t do things b/c everyone else is doing them–don’t be a lemming.

Some beautiful passages describing the scenery.  It reminds me of my journalling when I go out in the woods to observe nature.  Maybe this was partly meant to act as a naturalist’s journal and partly as a philosophical treatise.

 

“Most men, even in this comparatively free country, through mere ignorance and mistake, are so occupied with the factitious cares and superfluously coarse labors of life that its finer fruits cannot be plucked by them…Actually, the laboring man has not leisure for a true integrity day by day; he cannot afford to sustain the manliest relations to men; his labor would be depreciate in the market.  He has no time to be anything but a machine.”

 

“Public opinion is a weak tyrant compared with our own private opinion.  What a man thinks of himself, that it is which determines, or rather indicates, his fate.”

 

“The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation.  What is called resignation is confirmed desperation.”

“A stereotyped but unconscious despair is concealed even under what are called the games and amusements of mankind.  There is no play in them, for this comes after work.  But it is  characteristic of wisdom not to do desperate things.”

 

“No way of thinking or doing, however ancient, can be trusted without proof.  What everybody echoes or in silence passes by as true to-day may turn out to be falsehood to-morrow, mere smoke of opinion…what old people say you cannot do, you try and find that you can.”

 

“We might try our lives by a thousand simple tests…”

 

“Could a greater miracle take place than for us to look through each other’s eyes for an instant?”

 

“We are made to exaggerate the importance of what work we do; and yet how much is not done by us!”

 

“To be a philosopher is not merely to have subtle thoughts, nor even to found a school, but to so love wisdom as to live according to its dictates, a life of simplicity, independence, magnanimity, and trust.  It is to solve some of the problems of life, not only theoretically, but practically.”

 

“When he has obtained those things which are necessary to life, there is another alternative than to obtain the superfluities; and that is, to adventure on life now, his vacation from humbler toil having commenced.”

 

“And when the farmer has got his house, he may not be the richer but the poorer for it, and it be the house that has got him.”

 

“But lo! Men have become the tools of their tools…we now no longer camp as for a night, but have settled down on earth and forgotten heaven.”

 

“No doubt they can ride at last who shall have earned their fare, that is, if they survive so long, but they will probably have lost their elasticity and desire to travel by that time.  This spending of the best part of one’s life earning money in order to enjoy a questionable liberty during the least valuable part of it reminds me of the Englishman who went to India to make a fortune first, in order that he might return to England and live the life of a poet.”

 

“It is best to avoid the beginnings of evil.”

 

“…for my greatest skill has been to want but little…”

 

“…the man who goes alone can start today; but he who travels with another must wait till that other is ready and it may be a long time before they get off.”

 

Arguments for living a minimalistic life–don’t be a slave to work, don’t be a slave to the news, travel/wealth are not goods in themselves

 

Don’t listen to other ppl or old ppls’ life advice or experiences, it’s not true by the time it gets to you–better to observe for yourself and make your own opinion

 

“I never found the companion that was so companionable as solitude.”

 

“We meet at very short intervals, not having had time to acquire any new values for each other…we live thick and are in each other’s way, and stumble over one another, and I think that we thus lose respect for one another.”

 

“I had three chairs in my house; one for solitude, two for friendship, three for society”

 

People’s worries color their perceptions of a thing:

“The old and the infirm and the timid, of whatever age or sex, thought most of sickness, and sudden accident and death; to them life seemed full of danger…”

 

“Not till we are lost, in other words not till we have lost the world, do we begin to find ourselves, and realize where we are and the infinite extent of our relations.”

 

“…for I was rich, if not in money, in sunny hours and summer days…”

 

“Rise free from care before the dawn, and seek adventures.”

 

“Let not to get a living be thy trade, but thy sport.  Enjoy the land, but own it not.”

 

On traveling/self awareness:

“One hastens to southern Africa to chase the giraffe; but surely that is not the game he would be after…I trust it would be nobler game to shoot one’s self.–

‘Direct your eye right inward, and you’ll find

A thousand regions in your mind

Yet undiscovered.  Travel them, and be

Expert in home-cosmography.’”

 

“I left the woods for as good a reason as I went there.  Perhaps it seemed to me that I had several more lives to live, and could not spare any more time for that one.”

 

“It is remarkable how easily and insensibly we fall into a particular route, and make a beaten track for ourselves.”

 

“I learned this, at least, by my experiment: that if one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.  He will put some things behind, will pass an invisible boundary;  new, universal and more liberal laws will begin to establish themselves around and within him; or the old laws be expanded, and interpreted in his favor in a more liberal sense, and he will live with the license of a higher order of being.”

 

“In proportion as he simplifies his life, the laws of the universe will appear less complex, and solitude will not be solitude, nor poverty poverty, nor weakness weakness.”

 

On one-track minds and lemmings/tradition:

“It is a ridiculous demand which England and America make, that you shall speak so that they can understand you.  Neither men nor toadstools grow so.  As if that were important, and there were not enough to understand you without them.  As if Nature could support but one order of understandings…As if there were safety in stupidity alone.”

 

“Why should we be in such desperate haste to succeed and in such desperate enterprises?  If a man does not keep pace with his companions, perhaps it is because he hears a different drummer.  Let him step to the music which he hears, however measured or far away.”

 

“No face which we can give to a matter will stead us so well at last as the truth.  This alone wears well.  For the most part, we are not where we are, but in a false position.”

 

“However mean your life is, meet it and live it; do not shun it and call it hard names.  It is not so bad as you are.  It looks poorest when you are richest.  The fault-finder will find faults even in paradise.”

 

“Do not trouble yourself much to get new things, whether clothes or friends….things do not change; we change.  Sell your clothes and keep your thoughts.  God will see that you do not want society.  If I were confined to a corner of a garret all my days, like a spider, the world would be just as large to me while I had my thoughts about me.”
“Superfluous wealth can buy superfluities only.  Money is not required to buy one necessary of the soul.”